idk if i can trust him, but i want to

ive been with my boyfriend for 3 months
and i met him a little over a year ago...
when i met him he had a girlfriend
but he was still flirting with me allll the time...
so i already know that he's totally capable of doing that same thing to me.
and back in may, before we were actually going out (but he'd long been single),
and he already told me he loved me like,
pretty often.... the only reason we weren't dating yet was because we live far enough away from each other that we don't see each other that often.
anywaaay, in may, he posted something on myspace that said
"i cant wait until tomorrow!!"
so i casually asked him what was happening tomorrow.
and he said "nothing."
but that bugged me....
because he seemed soo excited about it.
so i kind of pestered him
and he was like
"ok, i'll tell you... but you're not going to like it."
and i said, "what..."
"i'm hanging out with my gf...."
anddddd i was sooo pissed and i threw my phone across the room
and tried to go to sleep.
but i couldnt sleep because i was too busy crying.
so i got up and got my phone from across the room
and i texted him FXCK YOU.
soooo that whole thing sucked. and for the next week or so i just tried sooo hard to make him feel like sh*t and it worked! and i stopped talking to him for a couple days then he texted me and said "i'm single." and i have nooo idea why i forgave him, but i did.... ugghhh.
and we got into a few more fights about things like that.
but not since we've actually been going out.
aaand now he's in trouble for bad grades,
so his mom took his cellphone away and deleted his myspace (which actually just happened today, and his phone has been gone for weeks.)
and now i have no way of contacting him.
but he was home alone yesterday and called me 14 times!
but i was in class.
then i called him back.
and we talked for 15 minutes.
but.
i wasnt really abnormally happy after i got off the phone.
i dont know why.

sorry this is so disturbingly long.
but thanks for reading it, if you did.

Adren's picture

first of all, that's usually going to happen when you get involved with somebody who was already involved, suspicion and jealousy.. secondly, you're right, you shouldn't have taken him back after that "girlfriend/single" incident.. the distance isn't going to change so your mind will never be put at ease.. you busted him through myspace and now there's no way of knowing what else may be going on.. you can't call or text him at anytime so he may be doing whatever and whenever.. it's just easier to let it go and walk away.. I know you like the guy but it's a lot of drama and bad experiences with him to just sit back and relax.. you're always going to be thinking about those bad things and what he's been doing and with who.. you should move on, I know it's easier said than done but it's probably best.