Should i stay in VA with my boyfriend, mom, stepdad, and friends or should i move to NJ to live with my dad and stepmom?I'm soo confused!?

I love my mom,boyfriend,dad and stepmom more than anything.....not a big fan of my stepdad.I would never be able to leave my boyfriend and mom easily...but not seeing my dad and stepmom alot kills me to.I cry all the time.Im always grumpy in VA because my mom and stepdad always fight because my little HALF sister(same mom diff. dad).In NJ with my dad and stepmom,im always happy because everything seems in place and feels right...but in VA im always happy with my boyfriend.I tell him everything,which i dont to my parents,and he understands(if i told my parents everything they wouldnt get it)because his parents are divorced to...but he sees his dad every week, when i see my dad once(but if im lucky twice)a month.Confusing right?PLZ HELP ME.