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Lately my husband has been avoiding my feelings. I have been trying to talk to him because for the last couple months in our marriage I have been feeling lonely and angry, but he shrugs me off and says I have to "fix my own feelings." I feel angry with him because the lack of his organization with our financial situation is putting us in heavy debt. I am a controlling wife because I feel more secure in control but also because he puts me in this position.
I have to balance the check book otherwise it won't get balanced and I have to pay the bills or they won't get paid withhout a late fee. I have to ride his ass to get important things taken care of. I hate doing it, but if left to him I am not sure we would have a very stable life. Recently I stopped telling him I love him, for example, when he leaves for work we usually say "I love you" before he leaves, but I don't. This really bothers him, but it seems by not telling him I love him is the only way to get him to take me seriously. It seems when I do tell him I love him he thinks everything is ok.
Why does he get so upset when I don't tell him I love him, it is surprising to me that a guy would care so much about that! And am I a bad wife for using a tactic like that?
You are not a bad wife...if u
Submitted by Opie777 on July 21, 2009 - 9:46pm.You are not a bad wife...if u have to stop saying i love u...to get ur feelings across then soo be it...when he walked down the aisle on ur wedding day and stood there before witnesses, god and everyone else he vowed to love u no matter what and not caring about ur feelings just shows how he isnt doing his part as ur husband....u need to sit down face to face and maybe talk about if u have any repressed feelings u would like to talk about...maybe even suggest marriage couseling threw ur church....communication, trust and love is key to any healthy marriage...i wish u the best and god bless...
When my girlfriend stopped
Submitted by rickmaff on July 21, 2009 - 9:40pm.When my girlfriend stopped telling me she loved me, everything went downhill from there... I can't even get her to talk to me on the phone now, and I'm not sure what I did... all I know is it hurts when its done without a reason behind it...
wow you sound just like my
Submitted by jsnake7779 on July 21, 2009 - 12:27pm.wow you sound just like my wife did we did the same thing you just have to find away to open his eyes give him time and just be open with him good luck to you