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So this sounds so silly but it's been getting to me. My boyfriend counts every penny and if I borrow anything or he buys me a drink I pay him back right away I will even transfer him freaking $1.50. I don't care I don't want free things. But some things just get on my nerves. For example last night we went to dinner and were checking out and he got a mint for 5 cents and I said hey can I have one and he said no get your own.
I give him change allllll the time if he needs some to make a price even or something and I don't say anything. Another example we were somewhere and I asked if he could lend me $20 cash so I didn't have to go to the ATM and get a $3 fee. He carries cash all the time so I didn't think it was a big deal and he said no it's your fault for not bringing cash.
Another example we are going on a vacation in a month and I paid for it ahead of time and keep asking for him to pay me back $135 and he says oh I'm budgeting for my car I will before we go so I say ok I will wait even though it's a big amount of money and I have to pay for things too like school and books. It's not fair I have to pay him back within an hour! What should I do it's causing resentment between us.
Oh and we've been together for 5yrs now so I dunno if that has anything to do with it.
it sounds like the affection
Submitted by Adren on September 8, 2009 - 1:40pm.it sounds like the affection and respect has died out in your relationship.. that happens.. after a while some people tend to stay together coz they know nothing else and are afraid of change.. you get too used to being together you soon start resenting each other without even realizing it.. this doesn't sound good.. what's going to happen if you marry.. what if you win the lottery, or he does.. a couple shouldn't fight over chump change, especially one that has been together for five years.. what if you have children.. will you share the expenses fairly or will he say no it's a girl so you pay if it's a boy I pay.. no no no.. what happens if you start making more money than him.. he will hate you.. I think you should re-evaluate your relationship and ask yourself if this is the kind of person you want to spend the rest of your life with.. it's humiliating frankly.. he's selfish.. good luck.