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Ok. I have always been very self conscience. All my friends have had a lot of bf's and i've only had two, one lasted for a week and the other a year. I dont like touching myself at all, not even to massage my leg after a cramp. I had a boyfriend for almost a year and i started to feel better about myself. But he always believed wat anyone had to say about me. mostly bad stuff that was no where near true. and that made it hard for us to comunicate well. and when he would start to hear bad things about me he would start to ignore me. so it was kinda easy to tell. And all my friends where the ones saying things about me. So i tried to fix things with them. I tried to fix things with my bf. and i tried to make everything better. but i got fed up with everything. and the minute i broke up with my bf everone started to hate me. No one talked to me for weeks. Then my bf, now ex bf, sent me a message and said that i needed to stop saying bad things about him. and went on and on about how i shouldnt be acting that way and that i'd changed and that i was bad at sex. we only had sex once, then he ignored me after that. and he knew i had sex once before him and that i didnt really know much about it. a month after we broke up we argued for a while, then he said he was sorry and glad that nun of it was true and that he still loved me and he would always be there for me. And we talked a bit after that. but now i am extreamly self conscience. and if i even think a lil about sex or some sort of affection from a guy. I just remember wat my ex said and i feel horrible for thinking about sex or kissing or anything. I dont want this to mess anything up in a future relationship. is there a way to stop? And my ex is still friends with my ex friends who lied about me and themselves to get attention. how do i convince my ex that they don't really care and that they are liers. Without having him think i still want to get back together. bc after everything i really dont. but i do still care about him for some reason. But i mainly want to figure out how i can have more self confidance.
if he loved you, he wouldnt
Submitted by roflabbiexd on December 20, 2009 - 4:56pm.if he loved you, he wouldnt care or say anything about how you were in bed.
thats just messed up, and you need to be open with him because you dont desearve to feel this way. no one does, and if hes the person thats causing these feelings you just need to be straight up with him and yourself.
i know its way easier said then done, i've been there and im there now.
if it makes me feel better, i never really like the way i look either but it sounds like hes the main reason for your troubles.
listen to youe heart :) xox
the trick is to not let those
Submitted by Adren on December 17, 2009 - 2:55am.the trick is to not let those ignorant people get to you.. people will say and do many things to make themselves look better.. that's just the way some people are, ugly.. you shouldn't worry about your self-confidence sexually.. your ex apologized and still cares about you.. that's a sweet guy right there.. he also said those things coz he was upset and felt hurt by the alleged rumors so he wanted to hurt you but he didn't mean it.. i'm glad you are not friends with those people anymore.. you don't need people like that in your life and you will meet better friends.. don't push people away because of your insecurities.. you said it yourself, you felt good about yourself because of your boyfriend.. I'm not saying you need a boyfriend to make you feel better but it's just a natural feelng to know that someone wants to be with you.. the key to confidence is to fake it, at first.. pretend and act like you are confident and soon you will become confident.. the best part is that no one will know how insecure you are, only you.. that's the truth behind most people you think are so good looking and confident.. they are as insecure as we are.. remember this: "you are the master of your own reality."..good luck.