what should i do.. i need serious help plz

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I need some serious help..?
Okay, this is a long story, please don't just read some & not all you have to know the full story, okay, my dad & i knew this boy since i was in 6th grade.. we were best friends & all. we liked each-other, and all that good stuff. 8th grade he moved 3hrs away. my sophomore year, i found his myspace 7 we started chatting, he asked for my number once but i lied to him and told him my cell phone was off ( which it was, but i have a house phone.. im just a little shy lol) anyways... now its my senior year, the end of last year he went to jail, he got caught selling drugs, yeah i know 'he's a bad person he's in jail blah blah' i heard it all, but i'm not that kind of person, i'm a loyal friend if i was in jail i wouldn't want ppl to not talk to me because i'm a human and make mistakes.. okay anyways.. here's where i need help.
i knew he had a girl b4 he went to jail, but i just kinda cut her out of the picture b/c i'm not worried about her, shes younger & trifflin lol.
anyways, so i started writing him in sept... the first letter i wrote i was like betcha never thought i would write you huh? then just the normal, hey how are you blah blah blah.. then he wrote back like wow yeah i never thought i would hear from you.. blah blah. then the second one i said how long are you in for blah blah what were you thinking.. and then caught him up a lil on my life.. he wrote back..and called me 'baby' then said im moving back b/c i cant live like this i learned my lesson im not selling again, jail isn't for me... blah blah.. then he told me he got a tat.. then i wrote back oo that'd be great if you moved back.. i wouldnt let you do anything stupid :P then i said what tat did you get? and i told him i was getting a tat.. then i also sent some pictures.. he wrote back all this stuff about i should have got with you.. blah blah.. that im beautiful.. blah blah .. he said he didnt wanna really say what his tat was.. ( so i figured it was his gf's name) then he said i was thinking about what our kids would look like.. then i wrote back.. oo thanks, are kids would b cute.. but dont you have a girl? he wrote back yea but i dont think shes gonna be with me this whole time.. then i said well if you trust & love her why not? then he said i dont trust anybody to stay the whole time.. blah blah.. SOOOO now im kinda mad he was 'leading me on' by saying hes moving here & blah blah blah.. and he would have never told me about this other girl unless i asked.. but on the other hand.. i wasnt writting him for a relationship. i was just being a friend.. but i want to confront him about saying all that stuff about moving here & what not..,when he has a girl.. so how can i do this?

i call alot of people baby & boo it doesnt really mean anything its just a thing to call someone like dude... but hes not cheating on her, he's in jail ? lmao

okay, here's the thing ppl. i never stopped liking him, i knew/liked him for six years, but when i wrote him it was just for friendship b/c if i was in jail i would want to be written to, plus my dad & him were kinda close when we were little.. and my dad told me to write him b/c my dad talked to his mom on myspace.. BUT since i still had feelings when he flirted it excited me.. i got lost in my mind..then returned from la-la land thinking hmmm.? doesn't he have a gf? but i think i'm a better girl for him then her, i have my life together, i have a steady job a car & everything, i could make his life better, thats why i'm kinda wanting to confront him!! plus i know ppl say things in jail that they have intentions on doing, but get out & remember who they are & just start living their old life...

This is my opinion - And I know from experience. I am currently writing to three people in jail, one is an x, one is a friends son, and one is just someone I met by writing. You need to be straight up and honest. All these guys I talk to are honest with me and I am honest back. When they write to me something like that, I ask straight up - What are your plans. I originally wrote to you as a friend, if you are happy in your relationship, I do not want to break that. I actually got real excited when I started reading the letter about moving back, but then when you started talking about your girl, my feelings changed - You need to let them know how you feel. I know it is probably so lonely in jail and he maybe wrote that at a depressed time, find out. DOn't be shy about it. Would you rather be led on my what you think, or be hurt by the truth. If you think about it, won't you be more hurt if you are led on and led on??

well....if u think that he woudnt walk out on you....and he'll be better when he gets out then u could try smthng....but id say give it some time....and try to judge whether he has feelings for u or not....