Do you think Spoiling is hurting?

asking him about marriage because u want to live your own life doesnt really sound selfish to me....after all....u have to lead ur own life and have a family....and if he doesnt want marriage then well i guess u have to move on.....u have to talk to him about it...there is no other way...because ur happiness depends on it....yet if u really want to lay low then just keep on hinting to him that u like marriage and stuff....say things like look at those ppl(who are married)...they look so happy..stuff like that....cause u have to do something...and try ur best to keep him....but if he doesnt want to get married then i guess u really have to move on...as there's no other choice.....:(..

Thanks - Yeah the only time i mentioned about marriage is when he claimed i wanted to get married now and said that he hopes i never get married! - so i had to explain that i want to do it once (no offense to him) and then start a family - it is different for him because he has been married and has a kid - I always promised myself i wouldnt get involved in this type of situation.

The only thing that was said about the marriage was to see if he would ever do it again - I am not going to waste my time with him - i want a family - and that is only after marriage.

I am so confused with him, and when i question anything - i am the bad one :(

Should I just walk away?? I am sooo happy with him, but then when i am not - it is a whole different story!

i never said u were...u shld've mentioned how long he's been divorced....and i guess u shld then definetly take ur chances....just lightly keep on bringing the topic of marriage...not too often....but often enough for him to remember....because...quite frankly....if he doesnt want marriage then its ur loss...u have ur life to think about....

I never mentioned anything to him about marriage - He brought it up the other day stating i did, but i know I didnt because i would not want to scare him away like that.

His divorce wasnt recent it was a while ago, couple of years.

I am not ruching into anything, believe me, i only want to get married once - no divorce, and then once married, i can start a family - thats what i eventually want a family - but not till after marriage -

I am not a selfish person, or greedy in the least bit.

he's just gone through a divorce and it was obviously a very distressful situation for him and he just isnt ready for marriage again....just give him some time....id suggest a couple of months and dont rush things...just be there for him....and eventually he should realise....give it a couple of months....u shdnt be wasting ur time until u feel under-appreciated.....hope this helps...

keep doing exactly what you are doing until you feel that he is unappreciative of it.. don't worry about the marriage thing.. put the time and effort into the relationship before ruining it with crazinesss like that.. maybe he wants to be with you forever but marriage is something he is afraid of because his last one didn't work out and divorce is a troublesome process.. I myself think that marriage is overrated.. my girlfriend knows that I don't believe in marriage as an institution but that doesn't mean I won't spend the rest of my life with someone.. for me marriage is an outdated ritual meant to signify ownership and complicates things in the end should things go awry.. just enjoy him and your relationship now.

We have been spending a lot more time with each other and I dont know if it is because he is afraid of the possibility of someone else, or he enjoys my company and getting spoiled