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QuotesHe's Hot and Cold, and it is so confusing.. Is it worth it?
Well I have been talking to this guys for a couple months now. We had a huge fight (he went through my phone and say a sexy text from a male), and he wanted to break things off completely, but then changed his mind that he wanted to remain friends. He wentthrough my phone again, and claims he is done he saw the texts and pics i have sent, now remind you, this is after he came out to my house because he said he wanted to see me, spent the night together-did our thing. This morning after leaving is when he sent the text stating he saw the texts and pictures and is done - I looked in my phone and saw nothing - I asked if he is trying to be done, or if he really wants to, because i saw nothing except texts to my brother and two cousins. It just seems as if he is hot for me one minute, and then the next cold. i am so torn right now and dont know which way to go. I have been fighting for him, and do just about anything he asks, or i know he will want - back scratched, masssages, food, cookies, etc. I feel as if I am giving him a mile and he is only giving me the inches - Not sure what to do..... Please someone bring some sense into me -
See there could be a couple
Submitted by Point Blank on December 28, 2009 - 4:53pm.See there could be a couple of things wrong with him.
- There could have been some misunderstanding. He could have "jumped the gun" and blamed you for something that wasn't really there. In this situation you need to talk to him and explain what was in your phone, ask him what he thought he saw, and you two talk it out.
-He could be trying to blame you for stuff that he is actually doing. Sometimes when people do things, and they don't want others to find out, they start to have a guilty conscience. And with that, they start to think that others are doing what they are doing. So he had those "sexy" text, and then tried to turn it on you and say you have the text. It's like him playing mind games.
Either way, you both should talk it out. Arguing with each other can actually bring you both closer together.
First of all, you need to
Submitted by Adren on November 27, 2009 - 3:49pm.First of all, you need to find out, from him, what it is he thinks he saw.. could just be a misunderstanding.. he probably doesn't know they were your cousins.. he is cautious now because of the first sexy texts so this will go on for a while.. also, you need to let him know that whomoever sent you that first text is no longer in your life so that he is no longer threatened.. these types of things happen way too often in relationships.. you need to explain yourself once you discover what it is he got mad over.. he obviously likes you otherwise he would not try to talk to you again and go over but he will be insanely jealous and insecure from here on out.. on a side note, the power in the relationship has shifted dramatically.. your relationship will consist of you kissing his ass and having to watch what you do or say from now on.. is that really what you want.. good luck.