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This follows on from "Adren thank you for your reply but...?". Basically I went to this girls room yesterday, and told her straight that i liked her as more than a friend, and that's why the drunken incident happened. She claimed that she didn't know i liked her in that way, and (niavely) thought that the drunken incident was just pure alcohol, nothing more! Anyway, she didn't seem surprised at all, and was absolutely fine about it, she said "it won't change anything". This confused me given how she reacted to the drunken incident? But anyway, i already knew she didn't like me in that way, and i said i knew that, so she never really got a chance to 'turn me down'. But she said "i don't really like anyone at the moment", which could either be just a polite way of saying she doesn't like me, or that she's just not ready for a relationship with anyone and that she may be interested in future (hope so but suspect not). She also said "i'm glad you told me" and the whole time seemed really fine and comfortable about it (almost slightly happy, but don't read too much into that), it was completely not awkward at all, although i felt awkward cos i was so nervous.
Anyway, my question is this, is there hope, ie is this a good sign that she might like me in the future?
How shall I play it from here, just be a really good friend?
btw, my words were "i like you" which you know from my other posts that that is the understatement of the century. Should i, with time, make it clear just how strongly i do feel, and that its not just a little passing phase? Or would that be pushing it..?
Thanks xx
Good for you for telling
Submitted by Adren on February 25, 2010 - 7:38pm.Good for you for telling her.. that was the best thing to do and it sounds like you see that.. she had no idea you had feelings for her and thought it was just you being a drunk jackass.. now the situation is cleared up.. so you put yourself out there and you went for it.. Great!.. unfortunately you're a victim of unrequited love.. her saying she doesn't like anyone at the moment is a soft way of letting you down.. but choosing those words in itself is tricky.. she left it open-ended.. she may change her mind within a few days or a few weeks.. but she'll let you know so don't bring it up again.. people do that, you know.. caught like a deer in headlights people say things to let the moment pass safely but later they get to think about it and analyze the big picture.. but as i mentioned, she will let you know if she has changed her mind.. the fact that you were honest with her and that she acknowledged the fact makes you a bigger man in her world.. so that's good.. all you need to do now is make sure you don't lose that communication with her and be a good friend and hope for the best.. support her and listen to her.. there's no need to mention your strong feelings for her again.. she knows this and will not forget, trust me.. good luck.